As a new Mum I went along to my local Mothers Group anxious to make a good impression, praying for my baby to sleep and not grizzle and to fit in.... I had spent a good hour or so the day before picking a outfit, washing my hair and thinking of things to talk about.
I don't find it particularly easy to make new friends and as a new Mum I was worried about making a good impression and not ruffling any feathers. I went along, with bub in tow ready to talk about sleepless nights, coffee, dirty dishes piling up and post baby life… However I wasn't prepared for the competitiveness on how my baby is “doing this” and “my baby is doing that”, “I'm already going for 5k runs”, “oh you can’t manage a daily shower??” Hmmmnnnn... totally hit me for 6. I left with my head spinning!
I got home and felt deflated. My first Mother’s group had left me with the distinct feeling I wasn't as good at this mothering gig as I thought I was. I chatted to a few of my friends with babies about my Mothers group experience and many had had similar experiences. As a new Mum I know we are desperately trying to appear competent and together, to find our own groove and get to know this little person we are now in charge of 24/7. There are enough pressures on new mums and making friends shouldn't be hard or stressful.
It took a few months but I eventually found a little group of Mummy friends, and although I don't attend a traditional mothers group I have found so much comfort in my Mummy friends and online relationships I have built. Another blogger Flat Bum Mum and I created The Laundry Lounge on facebook as a safe place to share our questions, funny stories and support one another. Then I was introduced to Hello Mamas I could have sung with joy! I have spent hours reading stories and searching on the site and only wish I had found it sooner. The App allows you to search mums near you and find like-minded mums friends that have common interests and personalities. It totally takes the anxiety out of meeting mums and enables you to build your local community. I have now joined the Hello Mamas team as an Influencer! Watch out for me being featured on their blog with upcoming stories and join our community.
Do you think that you live life to the full? So many people just go through the motions in life. They get up, go to work, eat, go to sleep. Or something to that effect. They do this most days. Occasionally, they’ll have a bit of fun. But is that really living, or existing? If you want to live and not just exist, this guide is for you. Start living life to the full with these tips:
Do Things that Scare You
If you’re not doing things that scare you, are you really living? Do things you’re afraid of doing, so you can say you’ve done them. We’re usually afraid of doing things because we’re scared of looking silly, or even failing. However, once we take the steps to do them we realise we were more than capable. This brings more confidence and willingness to try new things!
Get Some Help if You Need it
Some people need a little help to get the most enjoyment out of life, and there’s no shame in it. Maybe you’re a little older and not as mobile as you once were. Maybe you’d like help with tasks that you find more difficult now. Home care could be the solution. Your friends and family may even be happy to assist you.
Make a List of Things You’d Like to Do
To get it all out of your head, make a list of things you’d like to do. Call it your bucket list. Add to it as you think of new things. Start working your way through it. This can be immensely satisfying! It’s a sad fact that many people don’t even start their bucket lists. Start fulfilling your dreams now. We weren't all born to work and die!
Focus on Learning All Through Life
Learn as much as you can all through life. Something you’re not good at? Get better at it. Something you want to learn about? Start now. There’s no better time like the present. The same amount of time will pass whether you decide to do it or not, so you might as well.
Say Yes to Things More
We can all get stressed and busy, so it’s easy to say no when you’re asked to do something. Say yes for a bit instead. Go out of your way to do things even if it seems like it’ll be a bit of a rush or a struggle. Just get out there and live as much as you can. Watch the film ‘Yes Man’ to back up this point.
See People You Love
Make the most of your loved ones and see them. Set some time aside as often as you can for a catch up, even if it’s just half an hour. You’ll feel so much better when you work on your important relationships!
By now you should have an idea of how to live life to the full. Start right now and you’ll begin to realise all life has to offer! Leave a comment below if any of these tips have inspired you. See you back here soon!
When you choose a home for your family, you want to make sure that you’ve chosen somewhere safe. A place where its less likely accidents could happen, or intruders could take advantage of you. This is the only way you can rest with total peace of mind. If you want to ensure that you’re protecting your family and your investment, read on:
Insurance is Key
The only way you can protect yourself financially is to get insurance for your home. You shouldn’t skimp on getting a high-quality level of insurance. Insurance will stop you from being left in the lurch if you experience something like a flood, fire, or even theft. Take your time to pick a great policy that suits you and protects everything that you care about. Read the fine print and look around at other customer reviews and experiences.
You can never have too many alarms in the home to alert you to disasters and emergencies. Make sure you have a fire alarm and test it regularly to ensure that it’s working. You can also set an alarm with a code for trespassers.
Think from a Child’s Point of View
If you have children or even pets in the home, think from their point of view. What can you see that could injure them or be a hazard to them? You can cover corners, tidy up wires, and get rid of bottles and things that they might want to mess with.
Get the Professionals In
Although there are lots of things you can do yourself to make sure you’re protecting your home and family, getting professionals in to do it for you will give you the best peace of mind. Professionals will be able to offer you appliance testing and tagging as well as other services to make your home as safe as possible.
Having lighting outside the home can be a great way to keep your family safe. They’ll feel much safer when they arrive home, and lighting set off by sensors can help to deter thieves too. Don’t leave it until it’s too late!
CCTV is something a lot more people are investing in lately. It can not only deter thieves, but give evidence if something does happen too. You don’t even need real CCTV for it to be effective; dummy cameras can deter thieves too. Dummy cameras are also a lot cheaper, so it depends on your budget and how important you think CCTV is.
Focus on Locks
You can never have too many locks. You should have effective locks on the doors, windows, and even the cupboards. Locks on windows and doors will stop thieves from getting in, but also stop children from getting out. Too many children have accidents because they got curious and opened a window. Locks on the cupboards stop children from getting in and harming themselves with dangerous objects and chemicals. Ideally, you’ll not only keep these things locked but out of reach too.
Do you have any more ideas for protecting your home and family? Leave a comment below!
As a mother, I feel it’s important to try to look after my family’s future. I want to make sure that my daughter and future babies are well looked after now. But, I want them to benefit later in life from the decisions we make now. And that’s why I like to prioritise the things that I think will be helpful in working towards this. So, for instance, opening up bank accounts for each to them is always a good idea, it’s never too early to start saving.
But, there are other practicalities to think about as well. I feel that where I live is very important for the family. My home is an investment, and one that I hope to pass down to my kids one day. But, looking back there are so many things I wish I’d accounted for when we bought our home. So much so, that I wish I had designed my own house. Then it would have been perfect. So, I’m going to tell you how to design your own home and secure your family’s future.
Get a Plot of Land
Okay, so when it comes time to think about designing your own home the first thing you’ll need is a plot of land. You can’t build anything without land. And you need to know what land you have in order to come up with a home design in the first place. So at this stage you need to focus your energies on securing land to build on. You can go through auctions or find out what plots are available to make the best choice. You need to think hard about location when you make this decision. Understand that your family will spend many years living here.
Draw up Designs
Once you’ve secured the plot of land you need you’ll have an idea of size and space. So, this means you can now draw up some designs. You might have your own ideas about the sorts of things you want to have in the home. I suggest you get these down on paper by way of drawings. And don’t worry too much about whether they look great. You can touch them up later; for now you just need a basic design.
Work With Architects
When you’ve finalised your designs, you need to bring in the big guns. You’ll want to get in touch with architects and find out who’s interested in taking on the project. Then you need to make sure you work closely with them to get exactly the right home for you. Now, you might have some instances where you will have conflicting opinions. In this case, you need to listen, and take on board what’s being said. The architects are experts, and they do this for a living, trust me on this. So, if they tell you something isn’t doable, the chances are they’re right!
Customise Where You Want
You need to remember that, at the end of the day, this is your home. So you’ve got to make sure you customise it wherever you can. If you want something as part of the home, then do it! Remember, you need to think about the future, so you want to build the best possible home you can. Think about future investments like solar panels and converting the garage. These will increase the value of the property as time goes by.
Securing your family’s future is essential when you are a parent. And, one of the best ways to achieve this is to design your own dream home. That way you can equip it with everything a home could need. And it will grow in value as the year’s progress. By the time your kids are older and you’re no longer around, they can either use the home themselves or sell it.
Babies skin has different needs to Mummy skin, it is sensitive, fragile and so very new and squishy. We have been lucky that little miss has not reacted badly to any products we have used, she suffers from eczema and dry skin but with a little TLC she stays soft and squeaky clean.
Nappy rash, its a nasty cruel thing. Best to change nappies as frequently as you can. Make it part of your routine. To treat a sore and red bottom we use either Sudocream on a very red bottom or Basik Bottom balm for a little redness or dry skin.
Bath time Bubbles
Since little miss was diagnosed with eczema we only use QV in the bath. Oils and baby products like the Little Bairn Milk and Honey bath soak are also lovely bath time alternatives.
Smooth and squishy Skin
After bath time we always have a quick moisturize with QV, or Basik organics skin balm. Straight after bath is the perfect time to give baby a little massage to relax them and to give their skin some extra nourishment.
Once baby has hair its time to wash that baby scalp, we wash bubs hair once a week and gently brush her hair and scaly every other day. Daily food gets baby wiped out...
We use Milk and find it gentle and lathers nicely.
As a parent and a homeowner, the family home is probably one of the most important assets in your life. Its importance isn’t limited to financial factors either. Creating a great environment can serve as the perfect foundation for the whole clan to enjoy a happy life. Home should be a safe place to rest and nest , right!!
One of the main features that any great family must boast is comfort. If you can’t relax in the comfort of your own property, then where can you?
Achieving this extra sense of luxury doesn’t have to be too difficult.
Here are a few simple tips to create a comfortable, happy home.
Use Space More Efficiently
In an ideal world, we’d all love to live in a huge luxury mansion. That’s not a possibility for the average family, though. However, if you use space properly, you can still enjoy those same levels of luxury.
By remodelling your home, you can easily make the space appear bigger. Meanwhile, those of you with young children can take these ideas to redesign bedrooms in a unique and exciting manner.
If you are still looking for ways to create extra space around the home, then selling a few unwanted items at a garage sale will help. It will earn you a few extra funds too.
Make Sure Things Work
Every so often, we all encounter a few unexpected problems. As frustrating as these problems are, it’s imperative that you fix them as soon as they arise.
With the help of an appliance repairman, acting quickly will allow you to rectify the problem is the quickest and cheapest fashion. Not only is it a smart decision, but it also makes life around the home far easier.
After all, these appliances were purchased for a reason. If they aren’t working, you’ll be the one to suffer.
Appreciate The Garden
The one part of the home that is commonly left undervalued is the garden. However, if used properly, the outdoor area adds a whole new quality to the property. Embrace it now, and you’ll instantly unlock a new level of enjoyment for the entire family.
Transforming the garden can take many forms. You might want to add luxury items like swimming pools. Alternatively, you may be happy to simply plant a few flowers to create a peaceful area to waste lazy Sunday afternoons.
Either way, the garden can be your secret weapon for achieving a more comfortable home life. Don’t underestimate how special this area can be.
Encourage A Better Night’s Sleep
For most people, the only time we are truly relaxed is when we sleep. Not only is this part of the day key for removing the stresses of modern life, but it also plays a major role in our body’s performance.
If you aren’t getting enough sleep, it will soon show in your physical and mental well-being. Investing in new sheets can completely transform your sleeping patterns, and, therefore, your life. There are plenty of products to help you sleep better too, but making the bed more comfortable has to be number one.
The importance of a great night’s sleep can’t be emphasised enough. If there’s only one upgrade you make to your home design, this has to be the insomniac’s choice.
I can’t believe how close Christmas is already. We haven’t got that many weeks to shop for the perfect gifts and send out all those Christmas cards in the post. Still, I know I can rely on my family to make some awesome gift choices for me. And they love Christmas so much. The kids in my family get so excited about decorating the house and the tree. We all got onto the Google Santa Tracker last year too which was a huge hit.
There is still a lot to do, though. I know I need to get the gift shopping list sorted out. Kids are easy because they ask for what they want! But the grown-ups can be a little less forthcoming. Then there’s me. I know I’ll get some great things, but I can’t help buying those little things I see just for me. Don’t get me wrong. I love shopping, and I love giving gifts. But sometimes I think I deserve a little treat too!
One of the things I absolutely have to get at Christmas is a calendar for next year. Fortunately, Calendar Depot has already got their 2016 stock in, and I have my eye on the Mum’s Family Calendar. Honestly, I would not have a clue what was happening in the day without my family calendar. Everything gets written in there so I can never miss an appointment and keep everything running smoothly.
I always seem to ‘need’ new shoes at this time of year too. And I’m definitely one for bargain hunting. If I see something in the sale, I’m not risking it. I will buy it then and there. Besides, I’m not sure my family have quite the same taste in fashion as I do! But I’ll wear the Christmas themed jumper, and I’ll make the most of my jumbo makeup set too.
Mums seem to receive an awful lot of bath products at this time of year. I’m not saying they’re not welcome, but it takes until next Christmas to use them all up! This year, I’m hoping for fewer bath bombs and a few more bathroom accessories. I’ve been intending to revamp the bathroom decor for a while now. As usual, life has got in the way. But if I see a new towel set in a classic stripe, I won’t be able to help myself!
Like most families, our Christmas is done on a budget that gets blown out of the water every year. This year, I’m determined to stay on track. I know I’m as guilty as the next person for buying bargains that I see. But this year I’m price checking. I made the mistake of thinking something in the supermarket would be cheaper than elsewhere and was wrong by about $50. That’s an expensive mistake. So this year, I’m treating myself to a price checker app, so I’m not duped again.
I love Christmas time, especially with my little one. I love shopping for her and helping her shop for Daddy’s presents too. But if I see my favourite lippy on sale, I might just have to wrap it up for me with love from Santa!
I bought a house just gone two years ago for the first time, and I learned a lot during the process. My family nearly made a lot of mistakes because we didn’t fully understand the work involved. We now know there were lots of ways in which we could have saved money. We also know there are alternatives to standard mortgages when getting the cash you require. Considering all that, I wanted to publish a post that offers some excellent advice to anyone in that situation. Hopefully, I can help to make sure that you don’t overspend, and you go about things in the right way. Most of the suggestions on this page will apply to everybody, regardless of where you might live.
Use your SMSF
Lots of people have Self-Managed Super Funds these days. They are a brilliant way to ensure your money works for you. I’ve had one for quite a while, but I didn’t realise I could use it to acquire property. Indeed, there are many benefits of buying a property within an SMSF.
Not least that you will make around 35% more profit if you hang onto the home for twenty years or more. Bear that in mind before you go to visit a mortgage broker. Also, make sure you contact your fun company immediately.
Research the location online
It’s important you don’t move to a new area without first researching it online. We made the mistake of moving without looking at the quality of local schools. The one closest to our home is in the bottom 50% of the country. So, we now have to transport our little ones more than ten kilometers to a better establishment. If we had searched for the information prior to moving, we might have selected a different area.
Speak to the seller about leaving furniture
Saving money when you move house is vital. We found lots of furniture items waiting outside to be taken away when we arrived at our home. The seller couldn’t get a rubbish removals firms to get rid of them until the following day. Most of the items were perfect, and we would have kept them if they hadn’t been outside all night. With that in mind, make sure you ask the seller if they plan to throw anything away during the move. It will be cheaper for them and better for you if they leave some essentials.
The only other thing you need to worry about is the price. We overpaid for our home because we didn’t have the best negotiation skills. We only paid the seller a thousand dollars more than he deserved, but that is still cash we could have spent on other things. So, it makes sense to ensure you are prepared to haggle for any property you might purchase. At the end of the day, most sellers want to get rid of the home as soon as possible. So, it shouldn’t be too difficult to lower the price slightly. You just need the right levels of confidence.
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Comfort is key in my wardrobe, I have loved these pants from the minute I spied them on the Bohemian Traders website. They looked so comfortable and fun, so stylish and easy to wear.
Sadly with my SAHM clothing budget I knew I had to patiently wait to snag them on sale and that I did.
They are now mine and I love them even more ! Good things come to those who wait right. x
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