Breaking out of Your Shell: How to Exude Confidence and Transform Your Life

Confidence is one of the most important aspects of life. It’s a way of showing that you’re comfortable in your surroundings, and it’s also a way to ensure that other people take you seriously. Confidence is also useful for appearing trustworthy, and it’s also great to be confident when you’re out on a blind date.

It goes without saying that being confident can take you far in life, but how exactly do you achieve it?


What exactly does it mean to be confident?

There are many ways to describe what confidence actually means, but it can all be summed up in a simple explanation: believing in yourself.

Having confidence is the ability to make and believe in your own decisions. Whether it’s picking something to wear in the morning or choosing the right words when speaking to your boss, it’s important to exude confidence so you can have an easier time in life. It takes a lot of effort to build up confidence, and the main issue that holds people back is simply just a lack of faith in themselves. Perhaps they’ve been embarrassed in the past when they tried to show initiative and confidence, or maybe they just hate the idea of being ridiculed by their peers for making bad choices.

Whatever the case may be, it’s important to be yourself and believe in the decisions you make. Trust the words that come to mind and don’t try to be someone you aren’t. You are unique in your own way, so embrace it and be who you are, not who you think you’re expected to be. There’s no time to feel sorry for yourself or to criticise your own decisions. Live in the moment, trust your own choices and conquer your fears of failure.

Without further ado, let’s dive into some of the most common ways to exude confidence and set yourself apart from everyone else.


Embrace your own unique quirks

Firstly, embrace the person you are and be who you are. Don’t focus on other people, don’t try to mimic your friends and stop trying to become someone you aren’t. Whether it’s the way you speak, the way you get giddy and excited for something you love or your passion for fine wine, let your quirks become your defining features. Everyone builds up their own personality from the things they do, and as long as you’re not bothering other people with your quirks, embrace them and make them a part of who you are. This is the first step to believing in yourself and accepting yourself for who you are. Love every part of yourself, even the mistakes, and you’ll quickly build up confidence in yourself and your decisions.

Master your body language

Your body speaks volume. Your mouth might say one thing, but the way your body reacts and the way you contort your face are dead giveaways to what you really feel. Imagine trying to sound angry without clenching your fist—it would look completely out of place. To start with, practice straightening your back. Your body and the pose you adopt when standing still can say a lot about the type of person you are. Someone that doesn’t have confidence in themselves will typically slouch and look dejected. On the other hand, a confident person will keep their back straight and head high. They will walk with grace, they will sit down in a single smooth motion, and you won’t see them fumbling around.

Focus on your appearance

Your appearance is ultimately going to affect your confidence. Make sure you focus on getting dental work done to encourage yourself to smile more. Looking positive when speaking is one of the main keys to creating a confident appearance. Some people would associate dieting and exercise with exuding confidence, but this depends on the person in question. For example, some people are proud of being plus-size because they’re not conforming to societal standards regarding weight and body shape. Some people would prefer to have an athletic body so they can wear more revealing clothes that show off the hard work they’ve put in the gym. Others prefer not to do exercise and instead, use makeup to solve imperfections in their appearance. Whatever route you chose to improve your appearance, make sure you’re happy with how you look or else it will be difficult to exude confidence.


Practice speaking clearly and confidently

Confidence radiates from people who speak loud and clear. However, that’s not to say that confidence is directly related to how loudly you speak or how well you articulate yourself. Speaking confidently means that you’re able to follow and add to conversations without trying to make yourself centre stage and without standing on the sidelines. It’s difficult to master, but confidence is all about understanding the flow of the conversation. It’s as much about reading what others are saying as it is speaking yourself. The idea is to always allow others to speak and to never cut into what someone else says. When it’s your turn, you should speak with absolute comfort and familiarity. You shouldn’t seem unsure of yourself, and you should always try to combat any nerves you might have speaking to others. If you need practice, try speaking to family members, relatives, friends or even into a mirror to ensure you look comfortable during a conversation.

Don’t forget to listen to others too

As mentioned before, being confident in a conversation is also about reading the flow of a conversation. Always allow others to speak their mind and try your best not to take over a conversation. Follow the topics, add your own two cents and don’t speak too much if you aren’t sure about a subject. Make sure you give people chances to speak and always aim to get others to talk more than you. This can be achieved by asking questions or pointing out something about the person you’re speaking to, and never ask questions that can be answered with a yes or no.

Calm your nerves whenever possible

Being calm and collected is important when you want to seem confident. Never get angry at comments and always try to keep your cool. The more bothered you look, the more easily the facade of confidence fades. Try to keep your language clean and don’t openly attack or ridicule others because you could seem petty. Instead, being straight with people, but keep the aggressive and childish comments out of the conversation. This also means being able to come to a conclusion with others if you are arguing. If it’s clear you can’t get someone to understand or agree with you then simply bow out and understand that everyone has different opinions.


Stop caring about what others think

One of the most important aspects of remaining confident is being able to stop caring about what others think of you. This is important for several different reasons, but the main idea is that people don’t really care about what you do or say. They’ll forget your embarrassing moments and they probably don’t care about you or your actions as much as you think. As long as you’re not trying to stand out for the sake of it, it’s entirely possible to filter out what others think so you can focus on being who you are, not someone else.

Understand you’re just a small part of a larger world

You’re just a single person in a world inhabited by billions. Sometimes your decisions will have an effect on other people, and at other times, the things you say and do will have long-lasting consequences. You’re a really small speck of dust compared to all of the people in the world, but how does this help with your confidence? Confident people understand their position in the world. There are countless things to do, plenty of people to meet and limitless potential for discovery. Confidence is a measure of how much faith you have in yourself, and only those with lots of confidence can brave the world and constantly seek new opportunities to improve themselves.

Build principles and then stick to them

Confident people believe in themselves because they set their own rules. Their principles are solid and they stick to them like glue. If they break their own rules and modify their own principles, then they’re not really sticking to the plan they’ve set for themselves, meaning they lack the confidence to make decisions in the first place. Put it this way, if you’re constantly changing your decisions and principles because of what other people say, then you don’t exactly have faith in your own choices. Build principles, stick to them and don’t let others affect who you are and how you approach things.

Some final words

Confidence is easy enough to understand, but achieving it relies on alternating your lifestyle. It takes a lot of work, but you will no doubt find life easier to get through when you have the utmost faith in your own ability.